It's hard to say if this will cause problems for you. "Crush" can mean a lot of different things -- she might just mean that she thinks you're a nice person who's easy on the eyes, not that she's already secretly planning your wedding. If she's a stable, balanced person, then she will understand that she is coming to live with a committed couple, and she won't be interested in stirring up the drama that would result from trying to get between you and your girlfriend. Of course, knowing what you know, the burden is on you to not give her mixed signals. Don't shun her, but don't be flirty, and let her know that you are completely committed to your girlfriend. However, there are some dramallamas out there who get a kick out of stirring up turmoil. If she's a person who legitimately gets off on creating unrest and heartache for other people, you're in for a rough ride. This is a danger that can rear its head with any roommate -- male or female, gay or straight, into you or not. If something about her rings warning bells in your brain, trust your instincts and get out now. Your girlfriend deserves to know what's going on. Of course, if she's jealous or possessive she might veto this roommate situation outright, which solves your problem outright. However, if she's more of a laid-back type, and you explain to her that you're not interested with this girl and you've made that clear, she might be willing to help you all come to a solution that is agreeable to all. Good roommates are hard to find. If this other girl really is a good fit, don't let the fact that she thinks you're a cutie get in the way of building a good living situation. Just be sure to keep all lines of communication (between you and your girlfriend, and the two of you and the roommate) open, honest and respectful. However, if the something about your roommate makes you feel genuinely uncomfortable, it's worth the extra effort to keep looking. Good luck!

asked in Singles and Dating category on 03/30/2010