I had a friend that had this exact dilemma. I hate to sound cliche, but you should really down and have a heart to heart with her. Tell her exactly what you said in your question "you don't want to hurt her feelings, but it's really wearing down on your joy of the relationship you're in." Also assure that she's still a priority and important to you in your life. A lot of times best friends feel like they're not as needed when their friend is in a new and intense relationship. Make sure to make time for her and you.. specific coffee dates, shopping trips. Also, as much as you want to talk 24/7 about your new honey, be mindful of how she feels and find other topics to talk about other than your man. It's not bad to be happy and beaming when you're in love, but you have to be considerate to the other ones that are close to you. If they are feeling lonely, you don't want to make it seem like you're flaunting your happiness in their face - especially because that's not your intention. I think you can find a balance between being mindful and thoughtful of her feelings while you're around her and not feeling "guilty." A conversation with her is definitely needed. Good luck! Hope this helps.

asked in Bad Behavior category on 04/16/2010