Oh girl, I have been in your shoes before! There is nothing worse for your sanity than a guy who does just enough to keep you interested without making a real commitment. Now, I could give you a long, drawn out answer about how to play and win this "game" he's created, but here's the real deal: Cut this guy loose, at least for now. It sounds to me like this chap wants to keep you around as a security blanket, not as a girlfriend. He's afraid to let you go because he's worried that you'll find someone else and he will be left with nothing and what's worse, he will experience the male species' most hated feeling: loneliness. Remember, if a man wants to see his woman, he WILL see her. No upcoming travel plans or a 30-minute commute will keep him from being by her side. If these words of wisdom and experience aren't quite enough to sell you on ending this relationship, let me present you with what I like to call my 1.5 Step Plan: 1 - You drop this guy like a bad habit and move onwards and upwards. You'll be surprised how quickly your heart can heal when you are the one who's stopped all communication. Self-induced freedom is the best kind. 1.5 - After you've stopped all forms of communication and spent a little time (at LEAST a month - I cannot stress this enough) apart, I think you may see old boy start to realize what he let go and come a-crawlin' back. (**Step 1 can function completely independently, but you must complete all of Step 1 before moving on to Step 1.5) Best of luck and, just shooting from the hip here, you deserve better.

asked in Dating Strategies category on 04/23/2010