First off, it's important to know that you are not alone. About 10% of American women suffer from Anorgasmia and have never achieved orgasm. Secondly, have you spoken to an MD about your condition? Anorgasmia can, in some cases, be caused by a serious, underlying medical condition. It sounds like you and your partner are committed to creating a fulfilling sexual relationship with each other, to the best of your abilities. What will be essential going forward, is to keep the lines of communication open. If one of you start feeling bad about your condition, address it immediately so that it doesn't spiral into resentment and depression. It also may be helpful to see a therapist regularly, either together or independently to discuss your feelings about the problem. We all have some sort of obstacle to overcome in our marriages, it's important to not dwell on the negative aspects, and instead to focus on the positive. You are fortunate to have an understanding and sensitive husband, continue to focus on that and continue your commitment to provide a mutually fulfilling sex-life for the both of you.

asked in Sex & Seduction category on 06/14/2010