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Posted on Feb 23, 2010
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Hi guys - I am dating a great person, but they do not like dogs at all, and even call themselves a "cat person." I don't want to alienate this person, but at the same time, I also want to be able to have several dogs in my life - and to be with someone who loves dogs as much as I do. Otherwise, how can a healthy relationship ever develop with these issues? Any thoughts? Sabinel

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To dog or not to dog is that really the question? If your conviction to be an animal owner and lover outweights the importance of the other person in your life then maybe they arent right for you.

Were they to ask you to get rid of a pet you have already commited to then I would say keep the dog and put the relationship to sleep. Though if you are talking about fictional future pets then you may just be looking for a reason to sabotage the relationship and using "Im a dog person; Im a cat person" as an excuse to end it.

Posted by: sashamercy on 02/25/2010

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Hi Sabinel: as someone who is also a dog lover myself, I would try to discuss this with a potential partner in advance, especially since it sounds as if you are very fond of this person. Do you happen to know if your lover would be open to having both a cat AND a dog in the house, especially if the animals could live in harmony, so that you would each have your special animals in your lives?

This might prove to turn into a good middle ground, or you two could at least give it a few weeks and see how it works out [I understand that sometimes cats and dogs bond well, especially if they grow up together, but I don’t speak from experience here]. You could also call your vet, and see what his or her perspective is on the matter. However, if there a loving connection in the relationship, that's an important factor in itself, and really shouldn't be minimized in a society that can often makes people feel so alone.

So a loving dog can truly be an integral part of a family, although without another human being around to share in that love, that in itself can also create tension. So if possible, let me know any of your new thoughts about all this, as I tried to put the topic in some perspective, and hopefully that might help! -Kate

Posted by: kate on 02/23/2010

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