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Posted on Mar 28, 2010
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Does real love exist?

I have noticed that people only seem to care about themselves these days. Everyone who has ever given me love has eventually taken it back away. Where is the unconditional love? Has our society failed? It seems like people only get married because they don't want to be lonely. That's just a selfish motive, isn't it?

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Maybe you're looking for love in the wrong places? Maybe you need to let love find you? Maybe you're too young to understand right now? I agree with you and will say that society as a whole does seem to have different morals and values from what it once had. Bottom line is it has something to do with each individual and who they really are inside. I don't quite understand what you mean by "eventually taken it back away." I do get it if you meant fall out of love with you. God loves us unconditionally but even God only takes so much before He shakes us up in some form or another. I also agree that people get married for many of the wrong reasons versus the right ones. It's not selfish it's a lack of knowledge, understanding, and sometimes even immaturity. It seems as if you may need to work on you first. Learn who you are and become in tune with you! Set boundaries and develop some good standards for yourself. Find strength in you and don't look for it in others. Love you first, completely, then love will eventually come. When it does you will be more apt to ensuring it's what you need and not just what you want or desire.

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Posted by: anonymous on 04/13/2010

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Without a doubt, I know real love exists. Loving requires giving 150% of yourself without expecting anything in return.

"Agape" is the Greek word for the unconditional love we show those in need. The person who runs through waist high flames to save the child in her care while the parents are away is an illustration of unconditional love. This type of devotion is the personification of "agape" love, a sacrificial love that wants only the best for others, willing to die for the life of another.

"Philia" is another Greek term used to describe the loyalty of firm friendship, the love for our families, co-workers and one's place of residence. It may or may not contain the qualities of agape but is more detached, less personal and reserved for those whose loyalty has been tested.

"Eros" is the Greek word that describes sexual passion and is a primary ingredient to the "chemistry" one feels upon meeting another who stirs our soul. It may or may not be unconditional; rather, it is appreciative of qualities worthy of admiration. "Eros" is said to be a type of love that must be nurtured, as appreciation grows with the passing of time. It is also said to be a quality to be most admirable, as within "Eros" is the capability to comprehend spiritual truth.

"Storge" is the Greek word for the type of love one feels towards a wayward child or an ex-spouse. It embodies tolerance, an unconditional acceptance of a person's shortcomings without demanding excellence. Within "Storge" is the capability to show agape love.

All persons seeking love must first be willing to put oneself last, voluntarily giving of oneself whatever is required out of unselfish motivation for the betterment of others.

Biblical love that is described in the Scriptures asks one to examine his motives when beginning any sort of relationship; so that one is honest with himself about what he is willing to sacrifice (Agape). Love demands that a sacrifice of the self be voluntary and willingly offered.

All of those interested in a long-lasting relationship must seek a partner whose beliefs and values mirror their own. When there is an imbalance, the relationship will suffer. One cannot love without this quality present in one's heart.

Posted by: Jazzberri on 04/02/2010

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You are right. A lot of people enter relationships for the wrong reason. But that is no excuse to give up on love. From now on you should just enter relationships with your eyes open. Look for a girl that you can share amazing things with, instead of someone to fix or to fix you.

There are plenty of people who are truly in love and have successful relationships. Don't let a few failures blind you.

Posted by: LondonPaladin on 03/28/2010

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