Weekly Poll
Would you date someone who had previously dated one of your friends?
View Poll Results
BLAIRCARROLL Needs Advice
1
txt answers
0
video answers
0
views
0
votes
Work Issues - Talking Smack
At work I've been told that a co-worker has been saying negative things about me to get me fired. She is actually higher up than me so I can't understand why she would try to sabotage me like that. Should I confront her or try to prove her wrong?
Answers
rate me
So, if by "confront" you mean request a time to speak with her privately and ask her if there is any problem between the two of you, I would say yes, and proceed with diplomacy and respect. To express the desire to resolve any misunderstandings so that your working relationship can be harmonious, strong and productive, shows that you are open to addressing issues that will improve your work performance. Hear her out calmly if there are issues, for how you receive this information (with calm, patience and maturity) will go a long way to beginning a "course correction" which will only improve your value as an employee. Resist the urge to speak defensively, even if you feel criticism is unfair or inaccurate! Always express gratitude for information and the opportunity to become a better team member!
If there are no issues you will have to decide if you want to share what you've been told. Again, HOW you share who told you what may help her to know who's playing fair and who's playing divisive office politics, or make you look like a petty snitch so, pay very close attention to your choice of words, your manner of delivery and most importantly, your reasons for speaking up.
Posted by:
alohashanti
on 04/07/2010
Answer Question