Can over-analyzing "us" with a new partner become a self-defeating pursuit? I recently dated a guy for two months and became exhausted by the pressure of giving him my full emotional commitment. I have trouble making the leap to begin with, but I don't think us harping on the issue helped at all- in fact, it did quite the opposite, and I eventually recoiled. I wonder now if he and I had just relaxed about everything matching up perfectly, in time, it could have.