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His Mother is suffocating me! Help!
What do I do when my partner's Mother is very much in his business and wants to help us do everything? Even help us decide what we buy for our place!Answers
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If your husband thinks of the relationship in a different, then it is alright to express your concerns towards. Once again, there needs to be a balance.
Posted by:
roquecaston
on 05/13/2010
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First find out how your partner feels about his Mother’s way now that he is with you. If he does not like it either or so use to it he is oblivious to it but wants to make you happy then talk it over with him so he understands how you feel and it makes you feel when this happens.
Once you and your partner agree and he is for helping his mother change then get him involved to support your movement.
If his Mother truly means well and just does not realize what she is doing and how it makes you feel the only way to find out is to tell her, gently.
I think it is always easier to ask forgiveness than ask permission. Here is what I mean, the next time you and your partner are deciding something then make the decision and go do it. With out mentioning it to the Mother. After you have made the purchase or change then ask your Mother-In-Laws opinion what she thinks.
Once she realizes you have gone ahead already with out her advice she may get the hint. To avoid hurting her feelings make sure you sincerely let her know that
her opinion is important and counts but the decisions made effect you and your relationship so it is important to the health of the relationship that you two are the only ones involved in the decisions that affect it.
Her opinions and advice are important and help to make you both aware of things that you may not see or have considered.
Posted by:
wiseone
on 05/13/2010
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