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Posted on May 22, 2010
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Am I being a hypocrite for taking his money?

I am a college student and I really only depend on my parents when I have to. I met this guy recently and he is just throwing out the money. Buying me everything I could ever want. We haven't been together for a long time, but I know the issue of sex is coming up and I don't want to go there with him. I don't know if it's because it's too soon, or if I'll ever be ready with him! He's really not my type, but I love the personality and the favors. I feel horrible, but I don't wanna give my stuff back!!! Being that I'm in school to better myself and be independent; am I being a hypocrite for taking his money?...

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If you like this man because of his man, it's even a relationship. You're not in a relationship with the money, not him. You have to be honest with yourself and ask if it's worth being with him.

You have to be 100% independent. You have to show that you can take care of yourself. Your own clothes on your back because of the money you made on your own.

Posted by: roquecaston on 05/22/2010

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Honestly? Yes, you are being a hypocrite. If you are only relying on your parents when necessary then it sounds like you are working hard to make sure your own needs are being met. That is a sign of a very independent person - and a good thing. I know it might be easy to accept gifts, especially if they are things you might not be able to afford for yourself right now, but it's wrong.

If you have no feelings for this guy then you should end it. Give him back the gifts you can (and by "can" I mean anything that wasn't a meal) and explain that you don't see a future with him right now and you don't feel right about keeping his gifts. Let him decide whether or not he wants them back. If you aren't sure about how you feel about him, tell him that you'd like to keep seeing him but that the gifts must stop. Explain that you want to get to know him and the gifts are only clouding the issue. Only the will you know if your affections are tied to his wallet.

Just make sure you do something and fast. You don't want to get in a situation where you talk yourself into something you don't want to do (like sex) because that would put you in a whole new category and I don't think that prostitute is one you would want on your resume one day.

It will be hard but believe me when you start making your own money and are able to afford nicer things for yourself they will mean so much more.

Posted by: LuluBeans on 05/22/2010

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