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Posted on Feb 15, 2011
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Interrogation about the past

I have very good relationship and trustful partner that actually losy virginity with me. Still I have the tendency to ask questions about past (and present). I want to know every single detail of when, where, how... He doesn't get annoyed but it is silly and time wasting... I don't know how to deal with urge to ask all the time if he feels something or wants something from other women... or how good it was before... what was the strongest puppy feeling... there is nothing even to find out and I still keep questioning.

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What do you think it is that drives you to be so curious? Over time, your behavior will most likely drive your man away. Nobody (man or woman) wants to be questioned about their sexual past by their current partner. It's somewhat of an unwritten law. The details of the past can be damaging information if revealed. What you need to understand is the he is WITH YOU NOW. If things are healthy in your current relationship then it shouldn't matter who he was with in the past, or how he felt about his prior partners.

Taking things a step further --- do you think you are an insecure person? If so, have you ever addressed this issue? What do you think makes you this way --- past relationships? In many cases, when people are overly curious about their partner's past it is due to the fact that they don't feel good enough for their partner. This could be due to the way a prior partner treated you which lead to insecurity. Of, it could stem as far back as a childhood experience (or experiences).

You need to focus on yourself and let your relationship grow naturally without the additional pressures you are applying. I hope this helps.

Posted by: anonymous on 02/20/2011

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