Every woman tries to figure out what to do when it comes to getting a decent guy. Well, I have two things to say to that: Good luck getting a "decent" guy, and try to look at it from a different angle. Most women think only about what they should do and never about what they should not do. Based on my observations of eligible bachelors, I've provided five things that women do too much to catch the typical guy (as for finding the atypical--and therefore great--guy, I have nothing for you. If they exist at all, they're not among normal people). It all boils down to the fact that guys need to have their egos stroked (let that be the one "do" I give. I will now focus on the "do nots").

Don't be too Good.
I'll start with the obvious. Nobody wants a girl he feels he is corrupting. If you do everything right, talk too softly, and never swear, he's going to feel too badly about his debauchery, relative crudeness and frequent swearing. The angel thing works for daughters and mothers. For girlfriends it is anathema. Considering being a goody-two-shoes a form of leprosy.

Don't be too Funny.
Guys want to be the funny ones. Women are there to laugh at them and be in awe. If you tell all the funny jokes, you will be in the spotlight instead of them. Girls like that are fun to have around for a date or two. Don't expect much else, though. After his long jokes are eclipsed by your one-liners one too many times, he'll be gone.

Don't be too Skilled.
Contrary to popular belief, you can never be too smart. Guys like this. You can bail them out of their stupidity-induced problems without; they don't have to grow up so quickly. However, if you are too skilled at something they hold near and dear, they may literally pretend you don't exist. If a guy loves working on cars and is struggling with rebuilding that 1972 Mustang carburetor, but you do it in an hour, don't plan on seeing him again. If a guy loves baseball and takes a girl to the batting cages where she hits more balls than he does, the relationship isn't going to work out (I speak from experience). Do not trump guys at things they love; it's a guarantee that they won't love you.

Don't be too Hot.
Yep, contrary to what you may see in beer commercials, guys who are sevens on the hot scale are scared shitless of girls who are tens. They are intimidated and insecure (the opposite feeling of having one's ego stroked). If you look like Heidi Klum, save the high heels and make-up for special occasions. Wear a sports jersey, drink miller light and look as average as you possibly can (you should still shave your legs, though. Now if he's a ten, that's a different story, but how many of those guys are out there who are actually attracted to women?

Don't be too Autonomous.
Guys like to be needed. If you have your entire act together, you render them useless and a bit intimidated. Let them take care of you, even if you haven't been taken care of in years and are fine with that fact. Corporate lawyer who just made partner? Don't go too deeply into that. Just bought a house with your own hard-earned money? Don't mention that while sitting in his two bedroom apartment he shares with a college buddy. If you're more of a grown-up than he is, it may drive him away.

Now, all this being said, I would rather be single than deal with a guy as insecure as the one's I had in mind when writing this list. Well, this is why I'm single. When I find a confident, secure, mature man who isn't married or gay, I'll ignore all of this. Until then, this is the way it is.

What do you think that women do that they shouldn't do when it comes to dating?

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Would you date someone who had previously dated one of your friends?

Yes! I'm perfectly happy to date my friend's exes. They're exes for a reason.

No! It's too incestuous. I don't feel comfortable dating a friend's ex.

Maybe Yes: I haven't had the opportunity, but I don't see a problem with it.

Maybe No: I haven't done it, but I don't think I would.