Asked

Feb 2 2010

Female

I've been in a relationship with this guy for close to two years now. You know how they say like your partner should be your best friend, well, my boyfriend is truly my closest confidant and I'm in the habit of sharing everything with him. And until recently, I was under the impression that he too expressed all of his feelings to me. But of late I've discovered that he's closer to his best friend. Female best friend. He's shared some of his insecurities and other intimate emotions, which I wasn't even aware of, with her. I suspect of EMOTIONAL infidelity. It's been bothering me a great deal.

by cherubicgurl in Committed

Answered

Feb 2 2010

I think when your in a relationship, being too close to another person (of the sex you are interested in) is indeed dangerous. Not everyone has these intentions. However, for the moments when you and your partner are having any sort of issue, if he feels he can run to this other person right away, this is a very bad situation for your relationship. He may choose to run to this other person, who in return may give him some great advice, and he then might feel some sort of connection or visa versa. I feel if your heart and gut tells you their is any kind of emotional conneciton there, you should talk toh im about it. Most would say, the behavior was normal, but you just never know, and I am a firm believer in anything can happen. Do not overlook something your instincts tell you.

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