Asked

Oct 22 2008

Female

My wife left me and now wants me to pay child support. I feel totally betrayed by her and feel like giving her money would be rewarding her decision to leave me. If she decided to leave, shouldn't she take responsibility for the consequences and not make me responsible for her finances?

by bariejoy in Separated

Answered

Nov 18 2008

Dude, child support is for the child. It is not a reward for your wife its basic necessities for you kids. I understand you don't want to pay for your ex wife's lifestyle but if I had any kids I would want them properly fed and clothed. You need to take responsibility for what you created and pay your child support. I can believe you even had to ask.

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Oct 27 2008

I don't know if this will help you, but my ex and I have worked it out so that he doesn't pay child support to ME.

He pays for her braces, and for karate lessons & equipment. He bought her drums, and pays for lessons. He takes her to dinner and movies and shopping for CDs.

So our daughter has some extras while her dad keeps control of the cash.

Maybe you can work something out?

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Oct 25 2008

Um...yeah. Although I kind-of see where you're coming from, you aren't seeing the whole picture here. You cannot punish someone for not wanting to be with you anymore. It is part of life and you must grow up and accept it. More importantly, there are children involved, which means that you absolutely must accept responsibility. It is expensive to raise a child and you need to man up.

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Oct 22 2008

Seriously, guy? Are you familiar with the phrase DEAD BEAT DAD??

Man up, bro. They're your kids, face your responsibility.

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Oct 22 2008

The wife left you, not the kids. You still have to provide for them. Now, make sure you don't get stuck with spousal support, that you can't let happen.

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